Category: Health and Wellness
Hi all, for some reason I feel very low again. Usaly this time of year doesn't bother me. But something happened a few months ago to bring my confudence down. I had to go and see lawyers on Thursday. Now I have left that problem with somebody else to help me threw it. But ever since the thing happened I have just felt so low. Irated, snappy and crying all the time over small things. Then the internet went down. I just feel so bad. My psycologist says I don't need him any more. I don't agree. Mum doesn't like talking about things but I have to talk or something bad will happen. I cant let myself get depressed because I am waiting on a new guide dog and if they find out they willtake me off the list. Also I think Iam i the wrong course at college. It is social sills I don't need that. Things like how to make a conversation. Tonight my mum said I cant listen to this. I don't care. I cant sleep at night iether.
Over worry. Stop worrying you'll be okay.
is there anybody at school you can talk with, counselor or best friend? Is there a center for the disabled near your place where you can talk with folks who have similar issues?
Most schools have a counseling department for students. I suggest you start there.
Depression is a physical state of being, whereas low self-esteem or high anxiety are symptoms. Are you doing anything to take care of yourself, like eating healthy foods or daily exercise? What about creative pursuits like music or art?
Yes I had co counsellers at college. It didn't work. I have a psychologist and psychiatrist. I do a potery course tha is quite soothing. I think it is low self asteem after what happened a few months ago. But some times I think people don't understand me.
I have an issue with how our culture treats the idea of "low self esteem," as if it's some problem to be fixed. If we have good days and bad days, why doesn't that include having days where we feel good about ourselves and days where we don't?
If your self esteem is low, and the culture tells you that's a bad thing, then you feel bad for feeling bad, and the cycle continues downward. It's okay to have an emotional rough patch in your life, it's okay to feel badly about yourself now and then. It sounds like you're still taking care of yourself - going to pottery class, working to get a guide dog, and so on, so give yourself some credit for that.
There are crisis hotlines you can call if you feel as if you need to talk to someone, and I recommend doing that if you just need to vent off some of the frustration and badness. I can't give you any good medical advice beyond that.
Thank you. I feel a bit better today, it is funny but now the snow has come I like it. As long as it isn't to much and I cant get out. I always feel better when it gets colder. it is like sad only I get it worse in the summer. Now it is winter. I don't mind the cold.
I personally think low self-esteem can exist, but this country handles it very wrong. We're told that everyone is special no matter what, and everyone can do anything if you set your mind to it, which, as uplifting as that sounds, you are basically being set up to fail. I'm not saying we shouldn't strive to do better, and push ourselves to greater heights, but part of doing that is to be able to draw a line somewhere where you say enough is enough. I've tried everything in my power to make this happen. It's not my fault that it didn't pan out. I've always tried to maintain the aditude that the only way a person can truly fail is not to have tried in the first place. also, you may achieve your goal in the end; you just had to resort to alternate plans to get there. nothing wrong with that, either. I really do think insecurities and self-esteem issues would be far less common if people were more honest: Sorry. there is simply no way for you to jump high enough from the surface of the earth to land on the moon. it is physically impossible. Now, if you want to become a scientist and learn to build rockets, then you might be able to figure out another way to get there.
that's not beating down someone's dreams; it's just honesty. there's a huge difference between saying something like my previous example, and something like, "O, you want to jump to the moon? hahahahahahaha! You're insane if you think you'll ever be able to do that, idiot."
Right. so now that I've gotten slightly off topic, I guess the only advice I can really give is to keep yourself busy, even if it's just something small. I find that doing something productive is quite a confidence builder. And if you do something like that every day, you'll probably be back to normal in no time. sure, it may not be quite that simple, but I'm sure it will at least help.
I agree. very well said Ocean.
I agree with Jess and M. Good way of wording how to be hopeful, but honest and realistic about your goals. You've got things that are keeping you motivated, I can tell, so keep them in mind.
ell, I do have things to look forward to. Tonight I went to the cinima not my thing but at least it got me out.
Good for you, for at least going out and doing something. There's many people, maybe not in your same situation, but who are simply blind and don't think they're capable of doing anything other than sit at home and collect their SSI check. Keep getting out and keep yourself busy.